Our reprising writer Simba Mazhani, concludes his piece. Enjoy!
The innate desire to please your partner, that we ended Part 1 with, consequently means that whomever you become intimate with, their god inevitably becomes your god. If her pleasure is derived from money, you will do almost anything to guarantee that money is there in order to please her. If what drives him is sex, you will ensure that sex is there in abundance, even if it’s outside of the principles and parameters God has put in place. Reason being; you simply don’t want to lose that person.
A god isn’t necessarily a graven image or a deity that you go to a temple to worship; a god is one who rules over another’s life and instructs them on what to say or do.
It can be money, sex, drugs, alcohol, your spouse or anything else that compels you to do something & you oblige. By virtue of your obedience to its will, that very thing is your god. The Creator said to Adam, “Do not eat the fruit” while the Devil, through Eve, said “Eat with me”. By taking a bite of the fruit, Adam made his choice of who his god was, and it was not Jehovah.
So, before you enter into a relationship and a marriage, ask yourself; “Which god does this person serve?”
It is an imperative question because, whether you like it or not, male or female, we all attitudinally repeat the words of Ruth in our relationships. We unconsciously say;
“…whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God” (Ruth 1:16)
In Numbers 25, the intimate unions led to the worship of Baal & kindled the anger of the Lord.
In Genesis 6, they led to great evils & the destruction of the whole world.
“But as the days of Noe were, so shall also the coming of the Son of man be.
…they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, until the day that Noah entered into the ark,
And knew not until the flood came, and took them all away; so shall also the coming of the Son of man be.” (Matt 24:37-39)
Marriage is a beautiful & holy institution. I personally desire to get married, sooner rather than later. After all, “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” (Proverbs 18:22)
Nevertheless, I implore you to make sure that the wife/husband you do find is one approved by the Lord.
While they may not be perfect, because none of us are, ascertain that they have purposed in their heart and mind that the Creator & Redeemer God is their God.
And while they may stumble & fall at times, ensure that their sole aim in life is to draw closer to Christ each and every day.
That resolute decision will be evident by their habits & character. Not church membership; nor eloquence in preaching; nor even holding a position in the church. All of that is good but, in and of itself, it is not nearly good enough. Was it not church members that cried out “crucify Him!”?
A continual life of prayer, Bible study & a reflection of Christ in character, words & deportment will show you just how serious one is about their Christian life and devotion to God. “Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them” (John 7:20)
Any other person will passionately kiss you and sleep with you straight to the gates of hell & oblivion, professing their undying love for you en route. It happens worldwide on a daily basis while He who hung on Calvary’s cross for you watches from above with a broken heart, shedding Celestial tears.
If you feel that the world is rotten to the core and there is no hope of finding someone who brings you closer to Christ, it is better not to marry altogether because, once you get in, God has no desire for you to get out (Matthew 19:3-10).
But if you have a glimmer of hope, regardless of living in a world that is a cesspool of infidelity, continue to believe and trust in Jehovah Jireh. I assure you, He can and He will provide exceedingly more than you could ever ask or imagine.
Just in case it is not so obvious; no marriage means no sex. All Christians know this but we bluntly choose to ignore it when we allow our desires to overwhelm us. (Can I get a witness?)
God has one solution for the satisfaction of sexual thirst; get married. That which we have normalized is purely sin. And sin is an invitation for God to destroy, period.
“But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.” (1 Cor 7:9)
Let us earnestly make every effort to take our time in these matters. I know all too well that avoiding sexual temptation is a substantial undertaking. But my humble request is, let us try. God offers all the power needed for us to be conquerors in this war and every act of obedience, in both large & small issues, is a step forward in faith towards accepting it.
Sex is serious and marriage is serious. Those who rush into either one with eyes closed shut, blinded by lust or love, “…such shall have [much] trouble in the flesh…” (1 Cor 7:28)
Herein lies the conclusion of the whole matter; Beloved, misplaced intimacy leads to idolatry…
And when God’s patience runs out while you’re in it, no church membership, hymnal, choir activity, memorized scriptures, tithes & offerings, church services, prayers or even the very condoms you use to sin can save you from His Divine wrath, poured out without mixture upon those who reject His mercy.
Just ask the Israelites.
God loves you! Let’s love Him back & do our reasonable service.
Invite me for your weddings!
With Love, SM.